1. "YOUR GRANDMA DIED?"
2. "WAS IT EXPECTED?"
3. "HOW OLD WAS SHE?"
4. "WHERE DID SHE LIVE?"
5. "WERE YOU CLOSE?"
6. "IS THERE GOING TO BE A FUNERAL?"
7. "WHY DID SHE DIE?"
8. (and my anti-favorite) "WAS SHE IN A LOT OF PAIN?"
*this list may also be applicable in the case of a recently-deceased grandfather, mother, father, brother, sister, husband, wife, son, daughter, friend, beloved pet, etc.
update: excellent friends, please don't feel like this is directed at you. if we know each other, #1-#7 are acceptable questions (if we're friends, i don't think you'd ask #8.) brother bear and i get into this in the comments to this post, but this is really about people who i don't know very well and to whom i'm not particularly close getting super nosy and all up in my business when they hear about my grandma. i love you folks.